You can't touch without being touched
Push on a wall and the wall pushes back on your hand: you can feel it. Two skaters at a rink face each other and push; both glide backward, even the one who "didn't push". A canoeist pushes water backward with the paddle, and the canoe moves forward.
Newton realized that forces always come in pairs. A single, lonely force does not exist. This is his third law, and it explains how anything (you, a car, a rocket) gets moving at all.
How to spot a third-law pair
The two forces in a pair:
- act on two different objects (A on B, B on A);
- are equal in size and opposite in direction;
- are the same kind of force (both gravitational, both normal, both friction...);
- happen at the same time. Neither comes "first".
To find the partner of a force, swap the words: "Earth pulls the book down" becomes "the book pulls Earth up".
Why don't they cancel?
Forces cancel only when they act on the same object. The two forces in a pair act on different objects, so each one goes in a different free-body diagram. When two skaters push apart, skater A's FBD contains only the push on A, and skater B's FBD contains only the push on B. Each skater has a net force, so each accelerates.
Equal forces do not mean equal accelerations. By the second law, a = F/m, so the object with less mass accelerates more.